1 Corinthians 7:1-2 says, “Now
concerning the things whereof ye
wrote unto me: It is good for a man
not to touch a woman.
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication,
let every man have his own wife, and
let every woman have her own
husband.”
The word “touch” here is defined by
Strong’s Concordance
(G-680), as “to attach oneself.”
The context here is not referring to
courteously shaking hands with
someone in a greeting, but is
clearly referring to a “romantic”
touch, because it goes on to say
that to avoid fornication, a man
should not touch a woman in such a
way, but should get his own wife.
So, “It is good for a man
not to touch a woman” (in any type
of romantic way), because that
should be reserved for between a
husband and his wife, alone.
A “kiss” is definitely a “romantic”
attachment or “touch,” and it has
led many down the road to
immorality. Proverbs 7:10 says,
“And, behold, there met him a woman
with the attire of an harlot, and
subtil of heart.” In verse 13 it
says, “So she caught him,
and kissed him.” She
says in verses 17-18, “I have
perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes,
and cinnamon. Come, let us take
our fill of love until the morning:
let us solace ourselves with
loves.” He falls to her
temptations in verses 21-22, “With
her much fair speech she caused him
to yield, with the flattering of her
lips she forced him. He goeth
after her straightway, as an ox
goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool
to the correction of the stocks.”
The Bible warns in Proverbs 7:26-27,
“For she hath cast down many
wounded: yea, many strong men have
been slain by her. Her house is
the way to hell, going down to the
chambers of death.”
As Christians disobey Scripture,
they reap the same results as the
world—babies conceived outside of
marriage, unhappy marriages, and
broken homes. Galatians 6:7-8 says,
“Be not deceived; God is not mocked:
for whatsoever a man soweth, that
shall he also reap. For he that
soweth to his flesh shall of the
flesh reap corruption; but he that
soweth to the Spirit shall of the
Spirit reap life everlasting.”
I would encourage you to order all 6
of our Bible Study Courses on the
subject of “Marriage.” They are
free for the asking. The fact of
the matter is that the whole
“dating” scene is a recipe for
divorce. If you do not like
something about a person, then you
drop that one and move on to someone
else. The process continues, and it
sets a pattern. When a person
finally does get married, that
pattern is hard to stop. The longer
that a person is married, the more
faults that person sees in his/her
spouse, and the feelings come, “I’ve
got to get out of this
relationship!”
The Bible teaches “commitment”
before any romantic attachment.
Every single woman or man out there
is the potential wife or husband of
someone else, and you have no right
to become romantically attached to
another person’s wife or husband.
The last of the 10 Commandments is
found is Exodus 20:17, “Thou shalt
not covet thy neighbour's house,
thou shalt not covet thy
neighbour's wife, nor
his manservant, nor his maidservant,
nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any
thing that is thy neighbour's.”
You have no Biblical right to fall
in love with someone, to whom you
are not engaged. We all have a
choice in life to believe what God
says about who would make a good
husband or wife—or to believe our
feelings above what God says.
Sadly, most people make the mistake
of putting their feelings above
God’s Word, and they thus pay the
miserable consequences.
I have married several couples who
had their first kiss at their
marriage ceremony. They had
everything exciting to look forward
to in their marriages. Everything
was new to them, and they learned
together with excitement. But to
many couples, by the time that they
get married, their first kiss has
long passed (along with their
purity, for many). They have really
nothing new to look forward to in
their marriages, and you can soon
tell it by the way that they act and
speak to each other. There is a
better way. Order the Bible Study
Courses and see.