IV. The Choices For Marriage.
A. Finding the right person to marry.
1. The decision SHOULD NOT be based upon LOOKS. a. The Bible says in Proverbs 31:30, "Favour is deceitful, and ____________ is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised."
Note: How do you ever find the right person in this world? We are going to first consider some things which are NOT the right way to find a lifes mate.
Note: The word vain means "having no real value; worthless."(Merriam Websters Seventh New Collegiate Dictionary).
It is not just men that look for beauty in women, but women also heavily rely upon handsomeness in men, when choosing a mate. A bumper sticker was observed on the back of a young womans car which read, "Drink till hes cute!" That just shows the number one thing that both men and women look for when trying to find a mate LOOKS.
God says that beauty is a trait of no value,
and that is quickly seen after a couple gets married.
Note: A BEAUTIFUL FACE does not set the table; does not prepare the meals; does not vacuum the floor; does not change the babies diaper; does not wash the clothes; and does not get the groceries. A beautiful face is absolutely worthless other than to look at.
A HANDSOME FACE does not change the oil in the car; does not take out the garbage; does not till the garden; does not mow the grass; and does not fix the leaky plumbing. A handsome face is absolutely worthless other than to look at.
As you will soon find out in marriage, it consists of more than sitting around staring at each other. A successful marriage takes a lot more than looking, it takes a lot of working to run a house from day to day.
b. The Bible says in II Samuel 14:25, "But in all Israel there was none to be so much praised as Absalom for his ____________: from the sole of his foot even to the crown of his head there was ____ ______________ in him." c. Although there was no blemish in his looks there sure was in his character. II Samuel 15:2-6 says, "And Absalom rose up early, and stood beside the way of the gate: and it was so, that when any man that had a controversy came to the king for judgment, then Absalom called unto him, and said, Of what city art thou? And he said, Thy servant is of one of the tribes of Israel. And Absalom said unto him, See, thy matters are good and right; but there is no man deputed of the king to hear thee. Absalom said moreover, Oh that I were made __________ in the land, that every man which hath any suit or cause might come unto me, and I would do him justice! And it was so, that when any man came nigh to him to do him obeisance, he put forth his hand, and took him, and kissed him. And on this manner did Absalom to all Israel that came to the king for judgment: so Absalom __________ the ____________ of the men of Israel."Note: It is interesting to note that one of the most handsome men mentioned in the Bible, was also one of the most rebellious and wicked.
Note: Absalom ended up trying to take over his own fathers throne. The uprising was put down, and Absalom died in battle as a traitor against his very own father. You can read about it in II Samuel 15:7-18:18.
A handsome face does not guarantee a great husband, nor does a beautiful face guarantee a great wife. It may mean a life of big, selfish plans, that ends up in tragedy. Just look at the movie stars, and you will see the life of Absalom over and over again.
Do not play the fool by choosing a husband or wife based upon looks.
A. Finding the right person to marry. 1. The decision should not be based upon looks.
2. The decision SHOULD NOT be based upon WEALTH. Please read I Timothy 6:6-10, and answer the following questions. a. "Godliness with ____________________ is great gain." (vs. 6) b. "For we brought ______________ into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out." (vs. 7) c. The "rich fall into ____________________ and a snare, and into many foolish and hurtful lusts, which __________ men in destruction and perdition." (vs. 9)
Note: The word snare means "a trap; something by which one is entangled, involved in difficulties, or hindered." (Merriam Websters Seventh New Collegiate Dictionary)
d. "For the ________ of money is the root of all evil." (vs. 10)
Note: Sometimes people choose marriage partners based upon wealth. A young lady may be attracted to a young man whose father owns a large business, because she looks at the security of being married to him. A man may look at a woman who has wealthy parents in the same way expecting her parents to help them out, and looking forward to a large inheritance some day.
The life of wealth does not bring happiness to a marriage, but many temptations and sorrows. Notice in this world how often the very wealthy divorce their husbands and wives.
e. Ecclesiastes 5:10 says, "He that loveth silver SHALL NOT BE __________________ with silver; nor he that loveth abundance with increase: this is also ____________."
Note: The way to bring peace and happiness to a marriage is not by the desire to have a lot of money. It is that desire that will bring discontentment, emptiness, and ruin to a marriage.
f. According to Ecclesiastes 5:11, more wealth and bigger business just brings more payments to workers, etc. "When __________ increase, they are increased that ______ them: and what good is there to the owners thereof, saving the beholding of them with their eyes?"
g. Ecclesiastes 5:12 tells of further strain that wealth puts upon marriage, "The __________ of a labouring man is __________, whether he eat little or much: but the abundance of the ________ will not suffer him to sleep."
More money brings more worries.
More money brings less sleep at night.
h. I Timothy 6:17-19 tells us, "Charge them that are rich in this world, that they be not highminded, nor __________ in uncertain riches, but in the living God." i. Verse 17 goes on to say that God is very gracious, because He "giveth us richly all things to __________." j. Verse 18 reminds the rich of their obligation to "be rich in good works, ready to ____________________, willing to communicate."
k. Psalm 49:6,7 says, "They that __________ in their wealth, and boast themselves in the multitude of their riches; None of them can by any means redeem his brother, nor give to God a ransom for him." l. Mark 10:23,24 tells us, "And Jesus looked round about, and saith unto his disciples, How hardly shall they that have riches enter into the kingdom of God! And the disciples were astonished at his words. But Jesus answereth again, and saith unto them, Children, how hard is it for them that __________ in riches to enter into the kingdom of God!"
Note: It is not a sin to be rich, but it is a sin to trust in ones riches for security in life.
Question: Should you marry someone who is rich, if the life of a rich person can be so hazardous to your spiritual health? It is something to seriously consider before entering into such a marriage. But on the other hand, it is not right to reject someone just because he/she is rich. The thing to do is to see how such a person uses his money. Is he a miser who is bent upon making himself a millionaire as quickly as possible? Or is he very sensitive to the Lords leading, and does he help out those who are in need, as God leads him? How he uses his money now, will give you a good indication of how he will use it after you are married.
A. Finding the right person to marry. 1. The decision should not be based upon looks. 2. The decision should not be based upon wealth.
3. The decision SHOULD NOT be based upon OCCUPATION. Many times in Scripture, a mans occupation changed. Never marry a man FOR WHAT HE DOES as an occupation. Marry a man FOR WHO HE IS, that is, his godly character and life.
Note: There are two different reasons for young people choosing mates based upon their occupation.
a. Luke 12:16 says that "The ground of a certain ________ man brought forth plentifully." b. Verse 17 of that same chapter says that he did so well, that his barns could not hold it all, "What shall I do, because I have no ________ where to bestow my fruits?" c. He built bigger barns, and said to himself in verse 19, "Soul, thou hast much goods laid up for many __________; take thine ease, eat drink, and be merry." d. But verse 20 shows that he was trusting in a false security, because "God said unto him, Thou fool, this __________ thy ________ shall be required of thee: then whose shall those things be, which thou hast provided?"The first reason is a material reason financial security. This has just been covered in the previous point. You should never marry someone on the basis of their financial status. The wealthiest, most financially secure man, can be penniless or dead, in a very short time.
Parents should never teach their children to seek a career (or a mate) with the best wages and security, but should teach their children to seek Gods perfect will for their lives.
e. Hebrews 13:5 says, "Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be ______________ with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee."Note: That may mean a big paycheck, or it may mean a small one. If it is large, then God will expect them to use that wealth for His glory. If it is small, then God expects them to be contented and serve Him faithfully, knowing that in heaven they have a great reward waiting.
Note: The first reason that young people choose mates based upon their occupation is a material reason financial security. We have seen that it is faulty reasoning.
The second reason appears to be a spiritual one choosing a mate based upon his/her testimony that they are called to full-time service. At first, this reason seems like a good one for basing a marriage upon a persons occupation.
A young lady determines to marry only a young man that has committed his life to be a Pastor or Missionary. A young man determines to only marry a young lady that has been called to be a Pastors wife or a Missionarys wife.
Number one, God does not call women into the ministry He calls men.
These seem like grand and noble reasons for basing a marriage upon a persons occupation, but many times it later turns into years of doubt, depression, and discouragement.
f. I Timothy 3:1,2 says, "This is a true saying, If a ______ desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work. A bishop then must be blameless, the ______________ of one wife."
g. Judges 4:6-9 says, "And she sent and called __________ the son of Abinoam out of Kedeshnaphtali, and said unto him, Hath not the LORD God of Israel commanded, saying, Go and draw toward mount Tabor, and take with thee ten thousand men of the children of Naphtali and of the children of Zebulun? And I will draw unto thee to the river Kishon Sisera, the captain of Jabin's army, with his chariots and his multitude; and I will deliver him into thine hand. And Barak said unto her, If ________ wilt go ________ me, then I will go: but if thou wilt not go with me, then I will not go. And she said, I will surely go with thee: notwithstanding the journey that thou takest shall ______ be for thine ____________; for the LORD shall sell Sisera into the hand of a __________. And Deborah arose, and went with Barak to Kedesh." h. Isaiah 3:12 shows the sad case that results when men will not rise up and lead, "As for my people, children are their oppressors, and __________ rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to ______, and destroy the way of thy paths."
Note: Yes, it is true that God has used women in the past, like Deborah (Judges 4:4,5). But the reason that God used her, was because there was no man who would do what He wanted done. Deborah tried to get Barak to lead, but he would not.
Number two, God calls wives to be helpmeets to their husbands to help them fulfill whatever God has called them (the husbands) to do.
Note: It is Gods will for men to rise up, obey Him, and lead.
i. Why did God create the woman? Genesis 2:18 says, "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an ________ ________ for him."
Note: A young lady should not be taught to seek a calling from God for her life (unless it is in regard as to whether she should marry or remain single). Why? Because God has already clearly spelled it out for her in His Word. The will of God for her life is to help her husband fulfill whatever God has called him to do.
Many times, a young man will not even know exactly where he will be serving the Lord. And there is no way that he can guarantee where he will be, or what he will be doing some years down the road.
The terms Missionary and Pastor actually cause much confusion to young people. No one should surrender to be just a Missionary, or just a Pastor every Christian is to surrender to do ANYTHING that God wants done, ANYWHERE in this world, and at ANYTIME that God wants it done.
Illustration: The problem in teaching young ladies to seek Gods call to a specific ministry (or seek a husband in a specific ministry) is that they may state to prospective young men, "God has called me to be a pastors wife are you called to be a pastor?"
j. II Timothy 4:2-5 says, "____________ the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and ________________. For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables. But watch thou in all things, endure afflictions, do the work of an ____________________, make full proof of thy ministry."Missionaries and Pastors do the exact same job, only in different locations. They both preach, teach, and evangelize the people.
k. In Acts 18:9-11, we see that Paul in Corinth "continued there a ________ and ______ months, teaching the word of God among them." l. Later, in Acts 19:9,10 we see Paul "Departed from them, and separated the disciples, disputing daily in the ____________ of one Tyrannus. And this continued by the space of ______ years; so that all they which dwelt in Asia heard the word of the Lord Jesus, both Jews and Greeks."
Note: The apostle Paul is often called a Missionary, but he never stayed in one spot too long.
Note: If there was such a Missionary (as Paul) today, he would lose most of his support from churches. Why? Because a Missionary is supposed to be called TO A CERTAIN FIELD (we are told), and he is supposed TO STAY THERE for a least a couple of terms (8 years minimum). If he comes home after one term (4 years), then it will be insinuated that he is a quitter, and out of Gods will.
What does the Bible say? What Paul did in his life is exactly what God wants all of us to do be willing to go anywhere that He wants, anytime that He wants, and do anything that He wants.
Illustration: So a young woman thoroughly questions a young man who wants to marry her. She is convinced that God has called him to be a missionary in Spain exactly where God has called her to go.
After six years there, her husband decides that God is calling him to go to Alaska to start a church. She says, "Now wait a minute! I questioned you thoroughly as to where God had called you. It matched up perfectly with my call. Now you are saying that God is leading you elsewhere? Well God has called me here and I am staying!"
m. Women are told in I Peter 3:1-6 to follow the godly example of women of old, like Sara, "For after this manner in the old time the ________ women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in ____________________ unto their own husbands: Even as ________ obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement."
Does that really happen? There are many men who are not where God has called them, because of an unwilling wife that decides she has not been called to go to that place.
n. Genesis 12:1 says, "Now the LORD had said unto Abram, Get thee ______ of ______ ______________, and from thy kindred, and from thy father's house, unto a ________ that I will ________ thee." o. We are told in Hebrews 11:8, "By faith Abraham, when he was called to go out into a place which he should after receive for an inheritance, obeyed; and he went out, ______ knowing ______________ he went."
Note: What is the example of Sara? Did she make Abraham promise that they would serve the Lord in a specific place, before she would marry him? That would have been impossible, because God did not even let Abraham know where that place was!
Note: Sarah was married to a man that was willing to go anywhere to obey the Lord. That is the only thing that a man can really guarantee that he will, by Gods grace, obey the Lord to go anywhere. There is no way that he can promise that he will spend his life in a certain location, if he is going to be open to the Lords leading.
p. According to II Peter 2:5, Noah was "a ________________ of righteousness."
Illustration: Another example of this is Noah and his wife. Noahs occupation and location changed over time. He could not have possibly guaranteed his wife that they would be able to live in a certain place, or that he would be doing a certain occupation because he had no idea what was going to happen during their lives.
q. Genesis 6:13,14 says, "And God said unto Noah, The end of all flesh is come before me; for the earth is filled with violence through them; and, behold, I will destroy them with the earth. Make thee an ______ of gopher wood."
Note: Was that to be Noahs only occupation for the rest of his life? No.
r. According to Genesis 7:1-4, "And the LORD said unto Noah, Come thou and all thy house ________ the ______; for thee have I seen righteous before me in this generation. Of every clean beast thou shalt take to thee by sevens, the male and his female: and of beasts that are not clean by two, the male and his female. Of fowls also of the air by sevens, the male and the female; to keep seed alive upon the face of all the earth. For yet seven days, and I will cause it to rain upon the earth forty days and forty nights; and every living substance that I have made will I destroy from off the face of the earth."
Note: Noah became a ship builder for a period of years, along with the preaching. Could he have told his wife ahead of time that he would be doing that? No.
s. Genesis 9:20 shows yet another change of occupation, "And Noah began to be an ____________________, and he planted a vineyard."
Note: Now Noah was a ships captain and a zoo keeper for one year. Do you think that was ever in his wifes plan for a husband? Probably not!
What you find in the Scripture is men who are willing to do whatever God says (no matter how strange it may seem), and to go wherever God sends (no matter how far or unknown the place is) and wives who are willing to go and do what God leads their husbands to do. Wives have one call to be a help-meet to their husbands.
Note: The word husbandman means "a farmer." Do you think that Noahs wife planned on being a farmers wife?
t. I Peter 3:1 says, "Wives, be in ____________________ to your own husbands."
Note: A wife cannot fulfill that verse if she has her own calling and her own agenda for her life.
You should never choose a lifes partner based upon his occupation whether it be for material reasons or spiritual reasons. You never choose a person for WHAT HE DOES but for WHO HE IS. You agree to marry him based upon his godly character that he will follow the Lords leading.
A. Finding the right person to marry. 1. The decision should not be based upon looks. 2. The decision should not be based upon wealth. 3. The decision should not be based upon occupation.
4. The decision SHOULD NOT be based upon his/her PARENTS.
Note: THIS IS NOT REFERRING TO IGNORING THE PARENTS WISHES IF THEY ARE AGAINST THE MARRIAGE.
If a parent is a wicked sinner, then should you automatically reject any of their children as being fit marriage partners for godly young people? Or on the other hand, if the parents are godly and faithful in the Lords work, does that mean that their children are going to automatically make godly husbands and wives?
This is referring to whether a young person should automatically be rejected as a candidate for a future husband or wife, based upon the parents spirituality or behavior.
a. Ezekiel 18:20 says, "The soul that sinneth, it shall die. The ______ shall not bear the iniquity of the ____________, neither shall the ____________ bear the iniquity of the ______: the righteousness of the righteous shall be upon him, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon him."
b. Romans 14:12 says, "So then every one of us shall give account of ______________ to God."
Note: According to this verse, each individual person will be held accountable for himself, and no one else.
Note: If God does not hold a son accountable for the sins of his dad, then who are we to do such? Who are we to say, "His dad was a drunkard, and he will grow up and be no different!"?
Who are we to say, "Her mom divorced her dad, and she will probably grow up and do the same to her husband!"?
You cannot make those statements any more than you can say, "His dad was not a drunkard, so I am sure that he will never drink." Or, "Her parents never got a divorce, so I am sure that she will never divorce her husband." Children do not always grow up and do the same as their parents either good or bad.
You cannot say, "His dad was a faithful preacher, so he will grow up and be the same." The preachers son may grow up to be a drunkard, and the drunkards son may grow up to be a faithful preacher of the gospel.
c. In II Kings 16:1-3, we find that Ahaz begins to reign as king. In verse 2, the Bible states that Ahaz "did ______ that which was right in the sight of the LORD his God." d. Verse 3 of that same passage says that he, "made his son to pass through the fire, according to the abominations of the ______________."
Illustration: The Bible gives many illustrations of children not acting like their parents. Consider the following family tree for one of many examples.
Note: So Ahaz was a very bad and wicked king. He even sacrificed his own son in the fire.
e. II Kings 18:1 tells us that the son of Ahaz was Hezekiah, and verse 3 of that chapter tells us Hezekiah "did that which was __________ in the sight of the LORD." f. Verses 5,6 of that same chapter tells us, "He ______________ in the LORD God of Israel; so that after him was none like him among all the kings of Judah, nor any that were before him. For he clave to the LORD, and departed not from following him, but ________ his ________________________, which the LORD commanded Moses."
Does that mean that his son would then be a wicked man? Read on to find the answer.
Note: If you would have rejected Hezekiah because of his dads sins, then you would have been rejecting a good and godly man.
g. II Kings 20:21 tells us that Hezekiahs son was Manasseh, and in 21:2, "He did that which was _______ in the sight of the LORD, after the abominations of the ______________, whom the LORD cast out before the children of Israel." h. In 21:6, it further states of Manasseh, "And he made his son pass through the ________, and observed times, and used enchantments, and dealt with familiar spirits and wizards: he wrought much ____________________ in the sight of the LORD, to provoke him to anger."
So then what about Hezekiahs son? Would he be a good candidate for marriage to a fine young lady? Read on to see the answer.
Note: If you would have let your daughter marry Manasseh, based only on the godliness of his dad, then you would have been making a big mistake!
You cannot judge a young person by his/her parents. If his parents are godly, that does not mean that he is going to be godly. If her parents are wicked, that does not mean that she is going to be wicked.
i. I Samuel 8:1-3 says, "And it came to pass, when Samuel was old, that he made ______ sons judges over Israel. Now the name of his firstborn was Joel; and the name of his second, Abiah: they were judges in Beersheba. And his sons walked ______ in his ways, but turned aside after lucre, and took ____________, and __________________ judgment."
Samuel was a godly man, but that did not mean that his children were godly.
Note: So be careful! Do not assume that a child is going to act like his parents good or bad. What should concern you is how the young man or young lady acts.
Does a young man have godly parents? Praise the Lord! But how does he act? Is he serious about serving the Lord? Is he spiritual? Or does he act mischievous and bored with the things of God?
Does a young lady have ungodly parents? How does she respond? Does she like it? That is, does she like it that her parents let her do the things that unsaved people do? Or does she take a godly stand, and decline the offer to have permission to do the wrong things? Does she attend the dances that her parents would let her? Does she take the sips of liquor that her parents offer her? Does she dress immodestly like her parents would allow?
j. Ephesians 6:1-3 says, "Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. ____________ thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be ________ with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth."
Also, watch how the young person responds to ungodly parents. Does he talk bad about his parents and their sin to the point of being disrespectful, or thinking that he is better than his parents? Beware of that attitude in a young person.
k. Mark 10:7,8 says, "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be ______ flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh."
Note: If a child is disrespectful to his parents, then his life is not going to go well. If you marry him, then your life is also going to be filled with hardship.
Note: So if a child does have wicked parents, watch carefully how the child responds to the situation. It is certainly a situation which merits proceeding with extreme caution.
A. Finding the right person to marry. 1. The decision should not be based upon looks. 2. The decision should not be based upon wealth. 3. The decision should not be based upon occupation. 4. The decision should not be based upon his/her parents.
5. The decision SHOULD be based upon GODS WORD. a. Psalm 119:160 says, "Thy word is ________ from the beginning: and every one of thy righteous judgments endureth for ever." b. Proverbs 19:21 states, "There are many devices in a man's heart; nevertheless the ______________ of the LORD, that shall __________."
c. What should you look for in a young lady?
Note: People have many ideas about how to find the right person to marry, but only Gods counsel is always right. Only Gods counsel will always prove to be the best path to take. Do not be led astray into marrying the wrong person make sure that you consult Gods Word. What does Gods Word tell you to look for in a future husband or wife?
1.) Does she honor her parents? a.) Ephesians 6:1-3 says, "Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. ____________ thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth."
What should you look for in a young lady? 1.) Does she honor her parents?
Note: If you go ahead and fall in love with a rebellious, disrespectful young lady, then you better like a life of misery, because that is exactly what you are going to get. God promises that such a persons life will not go well, unless she repents.
2.) Does she have a meek and quiet spirit? a.) I Peter 3:4 says, "But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a ________ and __________ spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price." b.) Proverbs 7:10,11 says, "And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtle of heart. (She is ________ and ________________; her feet abide not in her house:)" c.) Proverbs 21:9 says. "It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a ________________ woman in a wide house." d.) Proverbs 10:19 says, "In the multitude of __________ there wanteth not ______: but he that refraineth his lips is wise."
Note: The Bible is very clear that an unfaithful woman is loud and stubborn. The Bible says that it would be better to live alone, than to live with a woman who cannot control her mouth and her actions.
What should you look for in a young lady? 1.) Does she honor her parents? 2.) Does she have a meek and quiet spirit?
God says that a meek and quiet woman is of great price (great value) to Him. If such a woman pleases God, then that is exactly the type of woman that a man should look for to be his wife.
3.) Does she seek to be a homemaker not a career person? a.) Titus 2:4,5 says, "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at ________, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed."
What should you look for in a young lady? 1.) Does she honor her parents? 2.) Does she have a meek and quiet spirit? 3.) Does she seek to be a homemaker not a career person? 4.) Does she appear to be ambitious? a.) Proverbs 31:13 says that, "She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh __________________ with her hands." b.) Verse 15 says, "She riseth also while it is ______ __________, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens."
Note: A young lady that is submissive to the Lord is not going to be preparing for a career, but preparing for a husband. Please refer to Marriage Booklet 1, for a study on working wives.
Note: Please refer to Marriage Booklet 1, for a study on ladies being ambitious.
c.) Ezekiel 16:49 says, "Behold, this was the iniquity of thy sister Sodom, pride, fulness of bread, and abundance of ________________ was in ______ and in her __________________, neither did she strengthen the hand of the poor and needy." d.) Now you can understand the wisdom of Abrahams servants request when he was sent to find a wife for Isaac. Genesis 24:12 -14 tells us that his prayer was, "the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, __________, and I will give thy ____________ drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac." He was looking for an ambitious wife for Isaac.
What is one reason that we have so much immorality and perversion today in marriages? One reason is lazy women who are not virtuous.
Note: Notice how God blesses, when the servant asks for the proper qualifications. He asks for a virtuous woman for Isaac, and God also gives him a beautiful woman (Genesis 24:16). There are many precious blessings to marriage, when you put first things first, and do things Gods way.
What should you look for in a young lady? 1.) Does she honor her parents? 2.) Does she have a meek and quiet spirit? 3.) Does she seek to be a homemaker not a career person? 4.) Does she appear to be ambitious? 5.) Does she appear modest and proper in her appearance? a.) I Timothy 2:9 says, "In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in ____________ apparel." b.) Titus 2:4,5 says, "That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, ____________, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed."
Note: The word chaste means "pure in thought and act; modest." (Websters Seventh New Collegiate Dictionary)
You want a young woman for a wife that dresses modestly and acts modestly. A woman may be fully covered, and still act immodestly and suggestively.
Remember, the right type of girl is not going to be attracted to you, unless you are the right type of a young man yourself. Spiritual people are not attracted to unspiritual people. YOU WILL ATTRACT WHAT YOU ARE.
These are just some things to look for in a young lady that would one day be your wife. Read Proverbs 31 over and over again. Whatever you do believe Gods Word! Pick out a wife based upon what His Word teaches would be a good choice.
d. What should you look for in a young man?
-- This question will be covered in the next Bible Course Booklet, Marriage Part 3
1. The Bible says in Proverbs 31:30 that "Favour is deceitful, and ____________ is vain."
2. The word vain means "having no real __________; worthless."
3. "Godliness with ____________________ is great gain."4. "For the ________ of money is the root of all evil." 5. It is not a sin to be rich, but it is a sin to __________ in ones riches. 6. Never marry a man for what he ________ marry a man for who he ______. 7. Parents should never teach their children to seek a career (or a mate) with the best wages and security, but should teach their children to seek Gods perfect ________ for their lives. 8. God does not call __________ into the ministry He calls men. 9. I Timothy 3:1,2 says, "This is a true saying, If a ______ desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work." 10. Isaiah 3:12 says, "As for my people, children are their oppressors, and __________ rule over them." 11. God calls wives to be __________________ to their husbands. 12. Sarah was married to a man that was willing to go anywhere to obey the Lord. That is the only thing that a man can really guarantee, by Gods grace that he will obey the Lord to go ________________. 13. Noah was a "________________ of righteousness." 14. Noah was also a _______ builder for some years. 15. Ezekiel 18:20 says, "The soul that sinneth, it shall die. The ______ shall not bear the iniquity of the ____________, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son: the righteousness of the righteous shall be upon him, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon him." 16. Ahaz was a very bad and ____________ king. 17. Hezekiah, the son of Ahaz, "did that which was __________ in the sight of the LORD." 18. If a child is disrespectful to his parents, then his life is not going to go ________. 19. Proverbs 19:21 states, "There are many devices in a mans heart; nevertheless the ______________ of the LORD, that shall stand." 20. Proverbs 10:19 says, "In the multitude of __________ there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise." 21. A young lady that is submissive to the Lord is not going to be preparing for a ____________, but preparing for a husband. 22. The word chaste means "________ in thought and act; modest."
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