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Marriage Part 5
Welcome to Marriage, Part 5, in the Marriage & Family Series of the Liberty Bible Course. We trust that Part 4 was a blessing and a help to you. This study is written to be used with the KING JAMES BIBLE, otherwise your answers are going to be wrong. Please get your Bible, and begin another exciting study in Gods Word, that just might change your life!Chapter 1
V. The Termination Of Marriage.
A. The case of the death of a spouse. 1. Romans 7:2 says, "For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be ________, she is ____________ from the law of her husband." 2. Romans 7:3 says, "So then if, while her husband ____________, she be married to another man, she shall be called an ____________________: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man." 3. I Corinthians 7:39 tells us, "The wife is __________ by the law as long as her husband ____________; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord."
The Bible is very clear that a husband and wife
are bound together in marriage by the law,
until one of them dies.
Note: If a persons mate dies, then that person is free to remarry, but only to another Christian (see I Corinthians 7:39 above). If a person remarries while a former mate is still alive, then that person is committing adultery. Note: People use all sorts of excuses to justify their sin. When confronted with the above Scriptures, some people say, "Well, I died emotionally when I was married to that man!" And the man says, "I was as good as dead when I was married to her!" So they go out and remarry while their former mates are still alive, thinking that they have somehow declared one or the other emotionally dead. 4. James 1:22 says, "But be ye __________ of the word, and not hearers only, __________________ your own selves."
Note: If you are not willing to obey the Bible, then you will eventually try to justify your sin. Many Christians have deceived themselves into thinking that it was okay for them to remarry, even though their former mates were still alive. The sad thing is that there are so many books out there by foolish counselors and psychologists who try and help people justify their sin in that very manner. None of them are really interested in obeying God, but in being popular, and in selling a lot of books. 5. Luke 6:26 says, "Woe unto you, when all men shall speak ________ of you! for so did their fathers to the __________ prophets."
It is the false prophet that tells you
what you want to hear. It is the faithful man of God
who tells you what God wants you to hear.
6. Ezekiel 2:3-5 shows us what God told Ezekiel, "And he said unto me, Son of man, I send thee to the children of Israel, to a rebellious nation that hath rebelled against me: they and their fathers have transgressed against me, even unto this very day. For they are impudent children and stiffhearted. I do send thee unto them; and thou shalt say unto them, Thus saith the Lord GOD. And they, whether they will ________, or whether they will ______________, (for they are a rebellious house,) yet shall know that there hath been a prophet among them."
Note: Jeremiah lived in Israel while Ezekiel was one of the captives taken to Babylon. It was a day when Gods people would not listen to the Word of God, but God tells His prophets that He expects them to give His Word to the people anyway. 7. Jeremiah 1:6-8 says, "Then said I, Ah, Lord GOD! behold, I cannot speak: for I am a child. But the LORD said unto me, Say not, I am a child: for thou shalt go to all that I shall send thee, and whatsoever I ______________ thee thou shalt __________. Be not afraid of their __________: for I am with thee to deliver thee, saith the LORD."
Note: We are living in a day of so many divorces and remarriages (while former mates are still living), that pastors are afraid to preach the truth, lest people get mad and leave their churches.
What if you did remarry while your former mate was still alive? What should you do? Admit that it was sin, and confess it to the Lord. Then, encourage your pastor to preach the truth for the sake of your children and the others in the congregation. If someone does not start preaching the truth, then the sin is only going to continue and increase.
8. Psalm 38:18 says, "For I will ______________ mine iniquity; I will be __________ for my sin." 9. Psalm 130:3,4 says, "If thou, LORD, shouldest mark iniquities, O Lord, who shall stand? But there is ______________________ with thee, that thou mayest be feared."
Note: If we are not willing to declare our sin, and to be sorry for it, then who will fear God and obey His Word?
The Termination Of Marriage A. The case of the death of a spouse.
B. The case of the "exception" clause. 1. Matthew 5:31,32 says, "It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the __________ of ______________________, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery." 2. Matthew 19:9 tells us, "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, ____________ it be for ______________________, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery."
Note: This exception clause only appears in the Book of Matthew. 3. Please read Mark 10:2-12, and fill in the following blanks. a. Verses 2-5 say, "And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him. And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you? And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the ________________ of your heart he wrote you this precept." b. Verses 6-9 say, "But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore ______ hath joined together, let not ______ put asunder." c. Verses 10-12 say, "And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and __________ another, committeth ________________ against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery."
There is no exception clause seen in the Book of Mark.
4. Luke 16:18 says, "Whosoever putteth ________ his wife, and marrieth another, committeth ________________: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery."
There is no exception clause seen in the Book of Luke. There is no exception clause seen in the Book of John.
5. Remember what Romans 7:2,3 said? "For the woman which hath an husband is __________ by the law to her husband so long as he ____________; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man." 6. Remember what I Corinthians 7:39 says? "The wife is __________ by the law as long as her husband ____________; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord."
There is no exception clause seen in the Books of the Bible written as letters to the churches, even when the matter of marriage and divorce is talked about in detail.
Note: The only place in the New Testament where the exception clause appears is in the Book of Matthew. That is very strange that such an important matter would not be discussed with the churches, when Books of the Bible were written to them talking about the matter of divorce and remarriage. How would they know that such an exception was even allowed by God? The matter may seem strange at first, but as we shall see, no exception clause was mentioned to the churches, because there was no need of it. Why? Read on to see. Note: The Book of Matthew is written for the benefit of all who will read it with an open heart just like every Book of the Bible.
7. II Timothy 3:16,17 says, "______ scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is ____________________ for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works."
8. II Timothy 2:15 says, "__________ to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, ______________ dividing the word of truth."
Note: And what do we discover when we rightly divide the Book of Matthew? We find that it was written for the benefit of all who will read it with an open heart, and especially to the Jew, to prove that Jesus is the Messiah, the King of Kings, and Lord of Lords.
This is important to understanding why the exception clause is only given in Matthew. We find the reason why, when we discover the Jewish manner of betrothal (engagement) and marriage, which is clearly seen in the Book of Matthew.
Please carefully read Matthew 1:18-25, and then answer the following questions.
9. According to verse 18, "Mary was ________________ to Joseph" (they were not married yet, only engaged or betrothed).
Note: "Espoused" means "betrothed" (Merriam Websters Seventh New Collegiate Dictionary)."Betrothal" means "a mutual promise or contract for a future marriage" (Merriam Websters Seventh New Collegiate Dictionary).
It is important to notice that Joseph and Marywere only engaged NOT married, when the angel appeared and announced the birth of the Savior.
10. Notice what Joseph was going to do (verse 19), when he found out that Mary was expecting a baby. "Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to ______ ______ ________ privily."
Note: What does the phrase "put her away" mean? We can find that out by looking at the passages which discuss divorce. 11. Jeremiah 3:8 says, "And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had ______ ______ ________, and given her a bill of ______________; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also." 12. Matthew 19:7 says, "They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of ______________________, and to ______ ______ ________?"
Joseph and Mary were only engaged, but he was thinking about divorcing her, because he thought that she had been unfaithful to him.
Note: Why would they need to get a divorce, when they were only engaged? 13. Notice verses 19 and 20 (we are still in Matthew chapter 1). "Then Joseph her ______________, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily. But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy ________: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost."
Note: Notice that the Bible calls Joseph and Mary "husband" and "wife," even though they are only engaged. Remember our previous study of this matter in the section dealing with betrothal? The Jewish engagement or betrothal could only be broken by a divorce. Why?
First, in such engagements, there was often a large gift given to the father of the bride for his daughters hand in marriage. If the engagement could be lightly broken, then the groom could be out of a great deal of money, and end up with the wedding canceled. It could take him years to save up enough money again to betroth a young lady to himself. 14. Remember how long Jacob agreed to work, to pay for the betrothal of Rachel? Genesis 29:16-19 says, "And Laban had two daughters: the name of the elder was Leah, and the name of the younger was Rachel. Leah was tender eyed; but Rachel was beautiful and well favoured. And Jacob loved Rachel; and said, I will serve thee __________ years for Rachel thy younger daughter. And Laban said, It is better that I give her to thee, than that I should give her to another man: abide with me."
Note: Jacob ended up being deceived by his father-in-law, and given the wrong daughter on the marriage night. Notice how long he has to serve to get the right one. 15. Genesis 29:25-27 says, "What is this thou hast done unto me? did not I serve with thee for Rachel? wherefore then hast thou beguiled me? And Laban said, It must not be so done in our country, to give the younger before the firstborn. Fulfil her week, and we will give thee this also for the service which thou shalt serve with me yet __________ other __________."
As you can readily see, a young man needed some protection, lest he work away his whole life for betrothals, and end up with no wife.
Note: In the Jewish system, there had to be an official writing of divorcement to break off an engagement. This allowed for there to be an official settlement of the money that had been given in promise of the young lady. Also, as we talked about earlier in the section on betrothal, it is important not to lightly break off an engagement. Why? Because the engagement period is where the two are supposed to fall in love with each other (and that is okay, because they are actually called "husband" and "wife" during that period). If you make provision to lightly break off engagements, then you simply end up with a system of dating, and a string of broken hearts. Also remember how we studied that it is sin to fall in love with someone that is going to be another persons husband or wife. 16. Remember one of the Ten Commandments? Exodus 20:17 says, "Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not __________ thy neighbour's ________..."
Note: It is wrong to covet a young lady or a young man to be your wife or husband, unless you are promised to that one in engagement. Why? Because that one may end up being another persons mate, but your feelings may remain strong for that one that is sin.
So only in the Book of Matthew is the exception clause given. There is a good reason for it, because it was the Jewish practice that an engagement could only be broken by a divorce. So the Jews would clearly understand the meaning of the exception that only during the engagement period divorces were allowed.
Note: This interpretation of the exception clause fits in perfectly with the passages dealing with it. Please read Matthew 19:3-12, and fill in the following blanks. 17. Matthew 19:3 says, "The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it ____________ for a man to put away his wife for __________ cause?" 18. In verses 4-6, Jesus goes back to creation for His answer, and He says, "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore ______ hath joined together, let not ______ put asunder."
Note: Jesus answer to their question was much different than they expected. His answer was, "A man is NOT to put away his wife for ANY cause." They are startled at His answer, so now they ask more questions.19. Verses 7 and 8 say, "They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the ________________ of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the __________________ it was ______ so."
Note: Once again, Jesus answer, based upon the example of creation, was "Divorce is NOT Gods will. It was only because of the hardness of the peoples hearts in Moses day that he suffered them to put away their wives." Now only after saying it plainly two times that divorce is not right, does Jesus give any exception. 20. Verse 9 says, "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, ____________ it be for ______________________, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery."
Note: Did the disciples understand that Jesus was saying that couples could get a divorce if one of them was found to have been unfaithful? No, the disciples took it to be much more strict than that. 21. Verse 10 says, "His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is ______ ________ to __________."
The disciples understood Jesus statement to be so strict, that they immediately said then that it would be better not to get married, because there would be NO WAY OUT OF IT.
Note: What is Jesus reaction to the disciples interpretation of what He just said? Did Jesus say, "Wait a minute, boys! You misunderstood me. I did not mean it that way..."? Is that what Jesus said? No, He did not correct them at all, but reinforced their interpretation. 22. Verses 11 and 12 say, "But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's ________: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of ______: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the ______________ of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it".
Note: Jesus did not correct the disciples strict interpretation of what He had said. In fact, He agreed with them, for certain cases. Such as men that were born eunuchs (men unable to have children because of some physical problem with which they were born); men that were made eunuchs by man (usually this would be a case of a servant being made such by his master); and men that made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heavens sake (men that chose not to have a family so that they could serve the Lord wholly). Jesus did not disagree with the disciples strict interpretation of what He had said, but agreed with them, that in certain instances, they would be right, and men should not get married. This is in no way saying that it is more spiritual to remain unmarried.23. Proverbs 18:22 says, "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a ________ thing, and obtaineth ____________ of the LORD." 24. I Timothy 4:1-3 says, "Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of ____________; Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron; ____________________ to __________, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth."
25. Daniel 11:36,37 says, "And the king shall do according to his will; and he shall exalt ______________, and magnify himself above every god, and shall speak marvellous things against the God of gods, and shall prosper till the indignation be accomplished: for that that is determined shall be done. Neither shall he regard the God of his fathers, nor the ____________ of __________, nor regard any god: for he shall magnify himself above all."
It is clear that Gods blessing is upon marriage and the family. In the latter times, it will be the doctrines of devils that say that people should not get married.
Note: A person can readily see from some of the cults that have arisen, why they do not like marriage amongst their followers. Why? Because a husband and wife are one. They talk in private. They share their innermost feelings with each other, and they trust each other. That is a threat to the cult leader, because he wants the total loyalty of his followers. It will be the same in the latter days, when the antichrist rules; in fact, he himself will not have any desire for women. He is consumed with himself, and wants others to be in total devotion to him, too.
Note: Back to the matter at hand, the disciples were used to religious leaders that argued about a multitude of reasons for a legitimate divorce.
When Jesus gave His Word on the subject, the disciples were shocked that there was no legitimate reason for a divorce, except in the case of fornication. They clearly understood that word as being immorality before marriage. That meant that divorce was only allowed during the engagement period.
Note: This is one of the key issues in understanding the disciples reaction to what Jesus said; that is, His use of the word fornication. If a word is used in different ways in the Scripture, then you must determine the meaning of the word by the context in which it is found. An example of this is the word wine. Jesus turned the water into wine (John 2:1-11), but the Bible also says that "Wine is a mocker..." (Proverbs 20:1). The context must be studied to determine the exact meaning of the word. (For a study of the word wine, please see the Bible Course on "Drinking Alcoholic Beverages." BC-E-109) Note: The word fornication appears 36 times in 32 verses of the Bible; and in the plural form, fornications, 3 times in 3 verses. In each case, we can safely call it an immoral sin (sometimes also in a spiritual sense). Sometimes, it just cannot be determined by the context whether the word is being used of a specific immoral sin, or just of immorality in general. But in Matthew 5:32, Matthew 19:9, (the passages of the exception clause) the word fornication is clearly contrasted with the word adultery. The dictionary defines fornication as "immorality other than between a man and his wife; immorality between a spouse and an unmarried person; immorality between unmarried people used in some translations, as the AV (standing for the "Authorized Version," the King James Version) of the Bible". (Merriam Websters Seventh New Collegiate Dictionary).
Interestingly, the compilers of the above dictionary, whose job it is to find the exact meaning of words, used the very verses of the exception clause as an illustration that fornication means
"immorality between UNMARRIED people."26. Notice Matthew 5:31,32, "It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of ______________________, causeth her to commit ________________: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery." 27. Also notice the other "exception" clause passage, Matthew 19:9, "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for ______________________, and shall marry another, committeth ________________: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery."
Note: The importance of that is that it agrees perfectly with the exception being during the engagement period, and not once the marriage has taken place. That is, if one of the engaged persons commits fornication (immorality between unmarried people), then a divorce (a breaking off the the engagement) is allowed.
Note: Notice in the above two passages how the words fornication and adultery are used in contrast in the same verse. If you are single (engaged, but not officially married), and you commit immorality, then you are committing fornication. But if you commit immorality within the marriage bonds, then you are now talking about adultery.28. Ecclesiastes 5:4,5 says, "When thou vowest a vow unto ______, defer not to pay it; for he hath no pleasure in fools: pay that which thou hast vowed. Better is it that thou shouldest not ______, than that thou shouldest vow and not ______."
The very two passages in which the exception clauses are found, just happen to be some of the verses which make a distinction between fornication and adultery. Why is this so important? Because the common explanation of Matthew chapters 5 and 19 is, "If your husband or wife is unfaithful to you, then you can divorce him/her and remarry someone else." But if the word fornication is referring to immorality BEFORE MARRIAGE, then this passage is no longer a valid "exception to the rule" as it is so used today.
Jesus clearly answered, "No divorce," when asked if it was okay. When pressed further, He said that the only exception was during the engagement period. If one of the engaged persons commits fornication, then that is grounds for a divorce for a breaking off of the engagement.
Note: What about the person who is married, and his/her spouse commits adultery? Does this mean that they cannot divorce their mates?
Note: When a couple stands before the pastor, they vow, before God, to stay together "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer..." etc.29. Mark 10:7-9 says, "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his ________; And they twain shall be ______ flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore ______ hath joined together, let not ______ put asunder."
God says that it would be better not to vow, than to vow and not keep it.
Note: When a spouse is unfaithful, is there never a fault with the other mate? Sadly, many times there is a problem WITH BOTH OF THEM.Please read I Corinthians 7:1-5, and fill in the following blanks. 30. Verses 1 and 2 say, "Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to __________ ______________________, let every man have his own ________, and let every woman have her own ______________." 31. Verse 3 says, "Let the husband render unto the wife due ______________________: and likewise also the wife unto the husband."
When a husband/wife falls into the arms of adultery, oftentimes it is because the first love has left their own marriage.
Note: The word benevolence means, "an act of kindness, a generous gift" (Merriam Websters Seventh New Collegiate Dictionary).32. Verse 4 says, "The ________ hath not __________ of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the ______________ hath not __________ of his own body, but the wife." 33. Verse 5 says, "______________ ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and ________ ________________ again, that __________ tempt you not for your incontinency."
The husband and the wife are to be benevolent toward each other.
34. Ephesians 4:31,32 says, "Let all ____________________, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye ________ one to another, ____________________________, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven ______."
Many husbands/wives have opened the door for Satan to enter into their marriages with temptation, because they have denied their spouses love and affection when they came to them.
Note: When adultery strikes a marriage, it usually shows the sad truth that a husband or wife has not been meeting the needs of his/her spouse.
That is not the time to throw blame, run away, and end the marriage. It is a time to humble yourself before Almighty God, confess your own personal sin, and start doing right.
The fact of the matter is that many people run away from their first marriage never admitting or confessing their own sin. And what that means is that the same problem is going to come up in the second, third, fourth, etc. marriages beyond.
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