Chapter 5

VI. The Problems In Marriage.
A. Your Self.
B. Your Spouse.
C. Your Children.
D. Your parents.

E. Your Finances.

Note:    Financial problems are still said to be a leading cause of marital problems. What can a married couple do, in relation to finances, to protect their own marriage? Please see Bible Course BC-E-120 for a more detailed study of this matter, but here is a summary:

    1. Be careful to give tithes and offerings to God.

        a. Matthew 6:19-21 says, “Lay not up for yourselves __________________ upon __________, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in ____________, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: For where your treasure is, there will your __________ be also.”

Note:   Some young couples say, “We cannot afford to tithe.” The fact is that you cannot afford to rob God, and that is what you are doing if you do not tithe.

        b. Malachi 3:8-10 says, “Will a man rob God? Yet ye have ____________ me. But ye say, Wherein have we robbed thee? In ____________ and __________________. Ye are cursed with a curse: for ye have robbed me, even this whole nation. Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and __________ me now herewith, saith the LORD of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a ________________, that there shall not be room enough to receive it.”
        c. Proverbs 3:9 says, “____________ the LORD with thy substance, and with the ______________________ of all thine increase.”

Note:   You will always struggle financially, if you do not give God your tithes and offerings.

1. Be careful to give tithes and offerings to God.

    2. Be careful to set aside a day to worship God.

        a. Hebrews 10:25 says, “Not forsaking the ____________________ of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.”

Note:   You may be tempted to get a job where they want you to work such hours, that you will not be able to take your family and assemble together to worship God. God will not bless you if you put the making of money before Him.

        b. 1 Corinthians 16:1-2 says, “Now concerning the collection for the saints, as I have given order to the churches of Galatia, even so do ye. Upon the __________ ______ of the week let every one of you lay by him in store, as God hath prospered him, that there be no gatherings when I come.”
        c. Acts 20:7 says, “And upon the __________ ______ of the week, when the disciples came together to break bread, Paul ________________ unto them, ready to depart on the morrow; and continued his speech until midnight.”

1. Be careful to give tithes and offerings to God.
2. Be careful to set aside a day to worship God.

    3. Be careful in the hours that you work.

        a. 1 Thessalonians 5:5 says, “Ye are all the children of light, and the children of the ______: we are not of the __________, nor of darkness.”

Note:   The Bible uses a principle of honest and upright people (that they are out doing things during the day, not the night), to illustrate a spiritual truth. People who are out at night, are often doing sinful things.

        b. Proverbs 7:7-10 says, “And beheld among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths, a young man void of understanding, Passing through the street near her corner; and he went the way to her house, In the twilight, in the ______________, in the black and ________ night: And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an ____________, and subtil of heart.”

Note:   The above verse deals with a young man. Much enticing to immorality takes place in the evening and at night. Many young people who have taken evening jobs (like in fast food restaurants), have been enticed into committing sin.
    Such is also the case with married men and women. Many men who work night shifts have been enticed to be immoral with co-workers, or with people who have met them on their breaks and lunch hours. They slip off into the darkness and sin together.

        c. Job 24:14-17 says, "The murderer rising with the light killeth the poor and needy, and in the __________ is as a __________. The eye also of the __________________ waiteth for the ________________, saying, No eye shall see me: and disguiseth his face. In the ________ they dig through houses, which they had marked for themselves in the daytime: they know not the light. For the morning is to them even as the shadow of death: if one know them, they are in the terrors of the shadow of death."

Note:   These verses show, again, the immorality that takes place under the cover of darkness. These verses also mention the thefts that take place during the dark hours.
    This is also a problem working a night shift at many businesses. There are normally less foreman’s at night, and many things are stolen from businesses by the employees.

        d. 1 Timothy 6:10-11 says, “For the ________ of __________ is the root of all ________: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many ______________. But thou, O man of God, flee these things; and follow after righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, meekness.”

Note:   Some people like to work night shifts, because there is often a premium paid for doing so (they are paid a little more per hour, that those working the day shift). But is the cost going to be worth it in the end?

 

Many wives are lonely in the evenings and afraid at night, because their husbands

are away at work. Many marriages are miserable because of night shift work.

    Why do businesses work night shifts? In the case of hospitals, the answer is obvious: people need the care. But have you ever wondered why many businesses and factories operate at night? Do the owners work the night shift? No. Then why do they run one? There is one answer — the love of money.
Rather than spend the money to add onto the factory, and spend the money to buy another machine for a worker to run during the day time, he will just start a night shift and hire a man to run that same machine at night. He thus saves money by not enlarging his building, and he saves money by not buying another machine. He is thus making more products and more money, but he is not there at night. Why? Because he wants to be with his family at night. He wants to sleep at night.

 

Then what he is doing is not loving his neighbor as himself, but is expecting

his neighbor to be willing to do what he is not — to work during the night hours.

        e. Galatians 5:13-14 says, “For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not ______________ for an occasion to the flesh, but by love __________ one another. For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy __________________ as ______________.”

Note:   If you are not yet married, set some Biblical standards for the job which you will accept. Put your family before making money, and be at home at night where your family needs you.
    If you are already married and have a night shift job, pray and ask the Lord to open up a job for you where you can be home in the evening and at night with your family.

“Ye are all the children of light, and the children of the day: we

are not of the night, nor of darkness.” (1 Thessalonians 5:5)

1. Be careful to give tithes and offerings to God.
2. Be careful to set aside a day to worship God.
3. Be careful in the hours that you work.

   4. Be careful to remember that the wife is to be a keeper at home.

        a. Titus 2:4-5 says, “That they may teach the __________   __________ to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, ______________ at ________, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

Note:   If you disobey this principle starting out your home, it is going to be very difficult to start obeying it, because you are going to have bills to match a two-income home.
    It is Biblical for the wife to have a home-based business, if the Lord so leads, but not one where she works under someone other than her husband.

        b. Proverbs 31:10 says, “Who can find a ________________ woman? for her price is far above rubies.”
        c. Proverbs 31:13 says, “She seeketh wool, and flax, and ______________   __________________ with her hands.”
        d. Proverbs 31:16 “She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she ________________ a vineyard.”
        e. Proverbs 31:18 says, “She perceiveth that her ______________________ is good: her candle goeth not out by night.”
        f. Proverbs 31:24 says, “She maketh fine __________, and selleth it; and delivereth ______________ unto the merchant.”

Note:   She does not have a store, but she makes things at home and sells them to the merchant. That way, she is free at home, and is under no one’s authority, except that of her husband.

        g. Ephesians 5:22 says, “Wives, ____________ yourselves unto your ______ husbands, as unto the Lord.”
        h. Ephesians 5:24 says, “Therefore as the church is ______________ unto Christ, so let the wives be to their ______ husbands in every thing.”
        i. Colossians 3:18 says, “Wives, ____________ yourselves unto your ______ husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.”
        j. Titus 2:5 says, “To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, ________________ to their ______ husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
        k. 1 Peter 3:1 says “Likewise, ye wives, be in ____________________ to your ______ husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives.”
        l. 1 Peter 3:5 says, “For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in ____________________ unto their ______ husbands.”

A woman who gets a job outside of the home places herself in an unbiblical

position, that of having to submit to someone other than her own husband.

Note:    Sooner or later, the boss is going to demand one thing, and the husband is going to want her to do another thing, and the wife will then unscripturally obey her boss to keep her job.
    The husband and wife who find themselves in such an unscriptural position, need to pray and ask the Lord for wisdom how to quickly resolve financial matters and get the wife back in the home where she is Biblically supposed to be. Maybe there is a home-based business you can start to help in that need.

Whatever the case, it is Biblically the man's responsibility to provide for the

needs for the home. That pressure should never be placed upon the wife.

        m.   1 Timothy 5:8 says, "But if any ______________ not for his own, and specially for those of his ______ house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel."
        n.   2 Thessalonians 3:10-12 says, "For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not ________, neither should he ______. For we hear that there are some which walk among you disorderly, working not at all, but are busybodies. Now them that are such we command and exhort by our Lord Jesus Christ, that with quietness they ________, and eat their own bread."

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