Question:
My marriage of 15 years is floundering and I need help. My wife and I have argued in the past, but now the arguments are more frequent and intense. The real problem is that she will erupt and criticize me in public. We have argued in front of our children, my parents and in public areas such as restaurants. I now have become very resentful, embarrassed and sensitive to her criticism which to me sound like a mother scolding a 12 year old. It has become so bad that I have taken to flying off at her when I perceive her to be belittling me in front of others. My attitude toward others has deteriorated as well. I am short tempered and angry all the time. When she tries to correct me, I perceive that to be another attempt to “scold” and the fireworks fly. I have repeatedly asked her to discuss the problems she has with me in private and in a civil tone and not in front of our children and others, but so far this has not worked out. I am at the end of my rope. I can’t stand the man I am becoming. I hate what we are doing to our children and the example they are learning. Divorce is sin. To stay in the present atmosphere seems impossible. I do realize that I am far from perfect and my errors have precipitated some of he outbursts, but I don’t feel that we need to allow the discussion to become so heated and public. I feel like a failure as a husband, father, and Christian. God has tasked me with being the head of my household, but I have failed at that as well. I am considering moving out and divorce. Please help. I need some Godly advice as to how I can get control of this situation before my family is lost.Continue reading
