Category: Marriage/Divorce — Includes Dating/Betrothal

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My marriage of 15 years is floundering and I need help. My wife and I have argued in the past, but now the arguments are more frequent and intense. The real problem is that she will erupt and criticize me in public. We have argued in front of our children, my parents and in public areas such as restaurants. I now have become very resentful, embarrassed and sensitive to her criticism which to me sound like a mother scolding a 12 year old. It has become so bad that I have taken to flying off at her when I perceive her to be belittling me in front of others. My attitude toward others has deteriorated as well. I am short tempered and angry all the time. When she tries to correct me, I perceive that to be another attempt to “scold” and the fireworks fly. I have repeatedly asked her to discuss the problems she has with me in private and in a civil tone and not in front of our children and others, but so far this has not worked out. I am at the end of my rope. I can’t stand the man I am becoming. I hate what we are doing to our children and the example they are learning. Divorce is sin. To stay in the present atmosphere seems impossible. I do realize that I am far from perfect and my errors have precipitated some of he outbursts, but I don’t feel that we need to allow the discussion to become so heated and public. I feel like a failure as a husband, father, and Christian. God has tasked me with being the head of my household, but I have failed at that as well. I am considering moving out and divorce. Please help. I need some Godly advice as to how I can get control of this situation before my family is lost.Continue reading

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I was reborn last January, and I’ve been growing quickly in the word of the Lord. Since then, I’ve had a calling to become a pastor myself, so for obvious reasons- it is very important to follow Gods laws. I am also currently engaged to be married to a wonderful Christian girl, and we try our best to do what is right- to make our union a holy one. But, here’s my problem…Continue reading

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How can one stop adultery when one is very deep in it?

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Thanks for your question.  God wants to hear people that are deep in sin, desiring to get out of it.  The Bible says, “Say unto them, As I live, saith the Lord GOD, I have no pleasure in the death of the wicked; but that the wicked turn from his way and live: turn ye, TURN YE FROM YOUR EVIL WAYS; FOR WHY WILL YE DIE, O house of Israel?” (Holy Bible, Ezekiel 33:11).  That tells you God’s desire.  He does not want you to die in your sin.  He wants you to turn from your sin to Him, and live. Continue reading

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Did the Apostle Paul have a wife?

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Thank you for your question. Although some have speculated that Paul had a wife, because they say that he was a member of the Jewish Sanhedrin, I must go by the Word of God.Continue reading

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What is an affair? Can God forgive me? I have fallen in love with a woman, and I’m married. I have 3 children as well. 15yrs married… I saw a woman, who was new to this country, and we looked into each other’s eyes and I was lost… we both cry a lot because we can not be together, and love God at the same time. We want to stop seeing each other until I get divorced. I feel as if this is the answer. I know it seems wrong, but there are many things wrong in the world. I want to be close to my children. But I need to leave the home for now. I will be a part of their lives, everyday. I will not let my fathering duties be overshadowed by this change… So what to do? I ask for the best way to handle this in God’s eyes. He has given us the ability to chose, now what?Continue reading

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Does God allow remarriage???? if death has not happened!Continue reading

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The question I wanted to ask was on marrying someone who believes in God, but has not taken the step of fellowship, that is water baptism or have not answered to an alter call. I have noticed that your site has condemned unequally yoked Christians which in essence is really a bad idea.Continue reading

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Hello. I currently go to __________________ Baptist Church in _____________. I was wondering if you could help me with a problem. I like a girl who is only 14 and I am 18. Also, she is a Mormon and I am obviously not. Is it o.k. to go out with her? One more thing. I also like a girl who I once had made her hate me but now we are talking again. I am not too sure what to do. I like both of these girls a whole lot. Thanks.Continue reading

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Is it wrong to remarry after a divorce? After death of spouse?

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Romans 7:2,3 says, “For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then IF, WHILE HER HUSBAND LIVETH, SHE BE MARRIED TO ANOTHER MAN, SHE SHALL BE CALLED AN ADULTERESS: BUT IF HER HUSBAND BE DEAD, SHE IS FREE FROM THAT LAW; SO THAT SHE IS NO ADULTERESS, THOUGH SHE BE MARRIED TO ANOTHER MAN.”Continue reading

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Can a person remarry the person that they divorced? The ex-husband is not saved. The wife is dedicated to the Lord. She is thinking about remarrying her ex,and is not sure if it is right in the eyes of our Father.  Thank you.

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This question is a difficult one, because there are several things to consider.Continue reading