Category: Marriage/Divorce — Includes Dating/Betrothal

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Should a woman be a “keeper at home” (not working outside of the home)?

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Titus 2:1-5 says, “But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, KEEPERS AT HOME, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”Continue reading

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Hello, I wanted to know whether King Solomon and King David will be in heaven because both of them had more wife’s and concubines? Is this not adultery?

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The word ADULTERY is defined as “immorality between a married man and someone other than his wife, or between a married woman and someone other than her husband.” (Merriam Webster’s Seventh New Collegiate Dictionary). That definition of adultery would not apply to a person just because he has more than one wife (or concubine).Continue reading

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In my study group, we are discussing dating and courtship. Some of us were asked to take the opposite side of the study. My assignment is to discuss the problems with courtship and the good things about dating. I don’t think that dating is bad, but with courtship it says the relationship is revolved around the parents. I think it is a good idea to have a relationship with the parents, but not all the time. You aren’t in a relationship for your parents, your in it for yourselves. Also courtship says that its not okay to hold hands until you are married. Is this right? Some of the other reasons for courtship given to us is you go into this relationship only if your going to marry the person. If it is a first impression this is based on, then you are only wanting to marry this man/woman for their looks, isn’t this lust? Also some other reasons the parents give is courtship is protecting you from breaking your heart. It has always been said that if you fall off of the horse, get up and try again. Sometimes you have to learn from your experiences. Can you please help me answer this problem, and possibly provide some scriptural evidence, because I am having trouble finding this subject in the bible. Your help is greatly appreciated. Thank you.Continue reading

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I’m Christian, so is my girlfriend. We’re both 22 years old now. We have committed ourselves to each other, with concrete plans for marriage already. We have engaged in (immorality), but after some discussion, and repentance to God, we decided to stop this sinful act, and wait till after our marriage.  A few questions:  1. Are we considered married in God’s eyes, if we have registered our marriage (as in recognized by the law of the country), but a church wedding is not completed yet?  2. We’re in a situation whereby registering our marriage and conducting a church wedding are both not financially feasible (I’m in Uni, she’s just started working), can we in some other way dedicate ourselves to a marriage institution? I’ve read numerous questions and answers (with respect to the Bible) that relate to this issue, and many counselors seem to suggest that verses in the bible apparently wants us to get married, where we can solve the issue of (intimacy), and not committing the sin of (immorality). So, could I actually get down on knees with my girlfriend (or as I would rather refer to her as my fiancee) and ask that God recognizes that we would like to enter into an institution of marriage in His name, and that from then forth, we’re considered married to Him?  Your reply to these would be much appreciated.  Thanks.Continue reading

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My wife and I have been married for 16 years and have 6 wonderful children. We are very conservative, homeschool, use the KJV, practice modesty, etc. etc. On the dark side of this, however, is that I was married once before (no children)and it was when I was not saved. At the time of salvation I begged my then wife to come back and restore our marriage. She wanted “nothing to do with my religion”, divorced me, and was remarried within 2 months. I was helpless. After marrying again and having children, we were recently approached by some “Christians” who used scripture to back up their argument saying that my wife and I are in a “continual state of adultery” until wife #1 dies and until then we are doomed to hell. Their counsel was for she and I to separate indefinitely or until we are freed by the first woman’s death. What are your thoughts on that? We’ve sought counsel from two pastors and they basically said, “Go and sin no more”. My wife is the one who is really struggling with this and I want to help restore her. Any advice?Continue reading

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If someone is engaged to be married, yet her betrothed husband “puts her away” gives her a “bill of divorcement” just because he wants to, how would that make her or him an adulterer? Neither one of them has had a physical relationship. Do you think divorce is a sin? If so, does that mean you think God is a sinner because He divorced Israel? Also wasn’t it a sin to marry the strange women in Ezra? And Gods solution wasn’t repent and go on, it was repent and divorce them. Even though they didn’t want to. They were perfectly happy with their spouses. Do you think the King James Bible is perfect? Do you think I’m divorced or single or married?Continue reading

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If two people ________ (are unfaithful to each other, and know someone else intimately) outside of marriage, and then don’t want anything to do with each other. Are they forbidden to marry? Doesn’t Paul say that the union is what makes 2 one flesh?Continue reading

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Something happened between my wife and I. I love her very much and, in word at least, have forgiven her. I want to trust her again, but morning to night my thoughts go back to what happened and I find myself in unguarded moments making up things that she “might be” doing while I’m away. I believe she is sorry for what happened. I believe she loves me. I know my mistrust of her will further damage our marriage if I continue and I may become bitter. How terrible that would be! I hurt, but I hurt her with my mistrust and make the “wound” raw with mistrust. We talk, I’m better for a while then back I go………..Jesus Christ is my Lord and Savior. Can you prayerfully show me how He desires me to forgive? A lasting, forever forgiveness?Continue reading

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My wife began drinking 14 years ago-when she was 45 years old. For 8 years my 6 children and I went through a terrible time. We went to counseling and learned a lot about alcohol and also women’s mid-life problems. She has been fine for over 6 years-alcohol free. Many times she has asked for forgiveness and I have given it. She went to AA and talked to the children about what happened. Now, I have feelings about the bad times and told her that we should see a marriage counselor. She agreed. Q>:What does the Bible say about me bringing up the past and forgiveness?Continue reading

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Does God ordain the marriage where one is saved and the other is unsaved?Continue reading